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In the current age of women empowerment and work equality I heard many say that every women should come out of kitchens and strive for women empowerment do greater things,compete with men equally. Which brings me to my question, what if one want to be a full hands-on- house wife or stay at home mom without being looked down the Noses of their highly achieving corporate friends and family? Some of us like me wants to be Care givers of the family, it's not that am lazy to depend on husband. It's not that am academically challenged. Is it wrong to think that let a man take care of me (with equal consent and respect ) without being a submissive wife. This question is burning me alot please answer honestly girls what do you think? What would you do?

In the current age of women empowerment and work equality I heard many say that every women should come out of kitchens and strive for women empowerment do greater things,compete with men equally.
Which brings me to my question, what if one want to be a full hands-on- house wife or stay at home mom without being looked down the Noses of their highly achieving corporate friends and family?
Some of us like me wants to be Care givers of the family, it's not that am lazy to depend on husband. It's not that am academically challenged.
Is it wrong to think that let a man take care of me (with equal consent and respect ) without being a submissive wife.
 This question is burning me alot please answer honestly girls what do you think? What would you do?
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So good to see someone with a similar thought process like me. I am well-educated, I love to study not because of degrees or certificates but just because I like doing it. And at the same time, I choose not to be part of the rat race like others, being part of the corporate world and just running after money. I feel happy staying home, cooking, doing the cleaning and taking care of others. I don't understand people who never leave a chance to insult me only because they all are working and specifically "self - dependant". I feel being a homemaker is not a pity job and everyone has a choice to do whatever keeps them happy. I don't want to compete, I don't find it stupid to adjust or compromise, I don't think it's insulting to take care of your partner and in - laws. And at the end of the day am happy, even if am just sitting at home doing nothing other than supervising :)

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So Gud to know tat am perfectly a normal woman.. Cos dis s just my story.. I used to think, Am I the only one who s facing such negative comments from the people, even from those who r really close to me.. Am just fed up of listening to those.. They don't leave a single chance to put me down.. I have started loosing self confidence cos of tat.. 😑

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It is totally your wish,whether u want to be a housewife or a working woman.Everyone have their choice and so do u.And moreover housewife is full-time job,and a job that need not be looked down.😊😊

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Me too

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Yes. Women empowerment is all about providing women with freedom that they were refrained from for all these years. You are free to choose whatever you want, even if you choose to be a stay-at-home mum. There's nothing to be looked down upon. In fact, I think it's incredibly cool. Do you. More power to you.

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It really warmed my heart to hear from all these women who shared their opinions and experiences. Thank you girls. Last night I studied various online forums on this topic as debate and stumbled upon various thought provoking points(Let me tell you this there's whole lot of hate on house wives out there 😱 they were really looked down.) *) one person said "nobody respects a house wife except other house wives., your husband will not respect you , not your children, neither in laws, nor friends and family." This made me really sad. Specially in our country we sing songs about mother being God and all the jazz but we rarely say thank you or acknowledge her hard work. *)" House wife is not an option if you are poor or economic class" many ladies work their asses off to serve other people/ families but can't be with their child when they are sick. Am not a married woman yet, am juz 23, but it would break my heart to even think about leaving my kids everyday or not be able to see their first step or simply be there for them when they need me. So with these thoughts which made my insomniac nights even more restless, provoked me to start this conversation with you girls. CONTD...

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It should completely your choice . If u want to prove yourself by staying at home then it will be a good choice . To prove your self does not means that u have to go out for 9-5 job bcoz taking care of your family is a 24 hours job without any vacation. Empowering women not only means to go out of your home it is very broad in meaning it means u must be respected for being women rather than denied. You must prove yourself whether stay at home or go out is your choice

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In fact you choose that job which many don't want to..and yaa it's not that easy to nurture whole family by single hand..!! If you are happy then that's it..moreover if anyone says you or look down..then just say I have bigger heart to sacrifice and be happy to work in a job..(where I don't get paid,no holidays or any feastive leaves instead have more work)..that balances out to the society with care..!!

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To each his own.

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Contd.. With all the research I did in the devils hours of night, what I came to conclusion is that, There's this mis use of the word feminism alot, feminism should never be used to look down on others. The word itself is way to empower everyone (yes everyone including men, lgbtq, poc) in their own way. We often misunderstand what power means, to defeat others or control others is the most narrowest meaning of it all. Love is power too. To able to show affection even being vulnerable is the ultimate power of all. The point is the successful leading a family is as much equal if not more than holding a position as CEO of a company. The reason why house wives are looked down is due to financial dependency on husband and stopped learning. Yes many of the house wives stops learning (it does not have to be a degree, juz simply staying relevant with technology) where they get comfortable with the idea of staying at home. We all will be a waste of space when we stop learning. Learning is a continuous process we learn from birth to death. So ladies stay curious learn anything you can get your hands on, it doesn't matter even if it's a fridge manual!! Never stop learning. Contd..

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The most beautiful question I've read today😍. Even though I wanna be a career woman, I suggest u that u should do whatever u want. We need more people like u who know how to voice their decisions😘may all ur wishes come true & may god bless u with a happy, peaceful & healthy life ❤

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Its totally okay to be a house wife ,It's ur choice. Don't go with the society & do what do you like.its all up to you

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Well I'm a double masters. MBA(HR) and a journalist (crime reporter) also planning to start MPhil for my PhD program. And getting engaged by may 2018. And yes i do want to be a full time housewife after mu marriage at least for 2 years and i personally don't think it's bad or tainting my education. It's my choice and I'm very much happy with it so what others say doesn't really matter. Also being a housewife, doing chores and taking care of our family is the best job till date. You may not gain money but you gain love and feelings for and from others and that is more valuable than a flooding bank balance and an expensive lifestyle. This is what I personally think. Everyone has their own perception and I totally respect that. 😇

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